“Capital punishment is the most premeditated of murders, to which no criminal’s deed, however calculated, can be compared. For there to be an equivalency, the death penalty would have to punish a criminal who had warned his victim of the date on which he would inflict a horrible death on him and who, from that moment onward, had confined him at his mercy for months. Such a monster is not to be encountered in private life.”—
“Either we’re too focused on sex, and therefore frivilous, female chauvanist pigs, or we’re not focused enough on sex, and therefore frigid, control freaks who are missing out on the best part of life. Damned if we do, damned if we don’t–even by our own feminist foremothers. How frustrating.”—Erica Jong thinks you’re not having enough sex - Feministing (via petitefeministe)
“Not only do most movies exclude realistic representations of the way most real women come, many bypass even the idea of foreplay, a modest concession to female pleasure predicated on the (tenuous) notion that if she has been adequately “prepped,” she will achieve her orgasm in the “normal” way — through penetration. Indeed, the sex we watch in the movies is so narrowly defined as to marginalize female experience almost entirely.”—Our Orgasms, Ourselves: Meditations on Movie Sex (via eyeoferos)
“The kind of faux concern about teenage girls and sexual activity has nothing [to] do with keeping girls safe. It’s about legislating morality and ensuring that someone — whether it be a parent, husband, or the state — is making decisions for young women.”—Full Frontal Feminism by Jessica Valenti (via highjinks)
“Some sociologists argue that in U.S. culture, girls and women experience a “symbolic clitoridectomy.” In other words, even though women have clitorises in the physical sense, conversations about the clitoris are absent from discussions about sex. This is ironic given the hypersexualization of women’s bodies in mainstream media. When the clitoris is symbolically removed its importance is wildly understated, and presumed insignificant in sexual play.”—
We also have a PIV (penis-in-vagina) centric society when it comes to any discussions of sex. That is, that women need penises to have orgasms, and that most women who have PIV sex experience orgasms, which is simply untrue.
I’m making a point of inserting my clit into as many conversations as possible. I want there to be as many clit jokes as dick jokes. I want to clit slap someone. I wish to order people to suck my clit. I want clit-size-comparisons. In fact, I’m going to start generally thinking with my clit.
I am all for gender equality. I think both genders should be equal. But its important to remember that men can be discriminated against too, and this is often forgotten. Obviously men have it much easier than women, but there are two sides, and they both need to be included.
(This is with reference mainly to social factors and such as opposed to wages/job opportunities. For example while women are often expected to be the homemakers, men are expected to be the breadwinners and to protect women etc.)
Also some women to genuinely want to look after children and be homemakers and people fail to consider this when looking at average wage statistics etc.
I don’t think anyone forgets that there are issues facing men. Feminism in particular does not forget this.
You don’t need to be included all the time in conversations about women’s rights and equality though. Because in reality, men as a group ARE more privileged. Those who are on the short end of the privilege stick don’t have to include the privileged group in every single conversation or discussion. Our desire to talk about certain things more than others doesn’t mean we “assume there are no prejudices against man.” Please put that victim card back in the deck where you found it.
Yes, men are also affected badly by the gender binary. Yes, the sub-conscious hate of the feminine in our culture negatively affects men, who are routinely socially forced into acting more masculine and “macho” than they might naturally desire to. Yes, it is bad that men who do decide to stay home are judged for it. And yes, feminism is talking about these things.
Everyone knows that some women want to stay at home and raise kids etc. You aren’t bringing up some novel idea we’ve never considered. No one is advocating for “all women working whether or not you like to/need to/can!” I don’t understand why people always think they’re smarter than statisticians whose job it is to figure out accurate statistics. The pay gap between men and women does account for the fact that some women stay at home. It does not lump in, say, 100 working men with 75 working women and 25 stay-at-home women, and that’s why women receive 75 cents to the dollar men make. That would obviously result in a faulty statistic. Trust the people that compute these things: they know what they’re doing. They only compare the wages of working men to working women.
It’s also worth remembering that the gender binary was established (and is being maintained) by the fucking patriarchy. The reason men are forced to fit a masculine stereotype is because our society automatically assumes there’s something degrading about being feminine! Men are judged for wanting to stay at home not because their place is at work, but because the woman’s place is at home. Anything ‘womanly’ is beneath them. Men are inherently privileged, and any discrimination against a man due to gender binaries is rooted in the patriarchal system and the view that anything feminine is distasteful and unworthy. If we had true gender equality then these issues would be eliminated for men too.
“The really frustrating thing about the “Save the boobies” campaign and similar ones is that it gets it exactly backward. Often, the point of breast cancer treatment is to destroy some or all of the boobies in order to save the woman.
Saying that we should work to cure this disease because it threatens breasts is really upsetting. For starters, it suggests that women are worth saving because they’re attached to breasts, rather than the other way around. But worse, it tells any woman who’s had a life-saving mastectomy that she’s given up the thing that made people care about her survival. What a punch in the stomach.”
- Randall Munroe, writer of xkcd
Additionally, in making breast cancer a gender-centric issue rather than a human issue we’re utterly overlooking the men who suffer from breast cancer. I don’t wanna be the voice in the corner shouting ‘WHAT ABOUT ALL THE POOR MEN’ in response to feminist commentary, but medical issues that potentially apply universally shouldn’t be sexualised. 300 males are diagnosed with breast cancer in the UK every year. This is, admittedly, less than 1 in 100 cases, but surely the individuals should mean more than the statistics. And what about transmen? Gender queer individuals? Those who identify as gender neutral? In making it a pink ‘n’ sexy ”women’s issue” we make it harder for ALL sufferers to seek diagnosis and treatment.
How do you think the whole immortality shebang would impact Dean and Sam’s ability to gank demons? Would the morphic field apply to possessed bodies? Would the initial blow force the demon to evacuate, but leave the possessed victim alive inside, with the memories of everything they did, trapped in their body and ‘mortally’ wounded? How could they cope with that? How would Dean and his uncontrollable guilt complex cope with that? Would he try to help them? Where would they put the category threes? Wouldn’t one of them eventually become a category three themselves, what with their legendary injury rate and all?
Would Castiel, previously immortal, become mortal? And in becoming mortal, would he lose his grace? Would the grace of every angel be forced back to heaven upon the emergence of the morphic field? How would heaven, hell and purgatory deal with the complete lack of new souls? Would a demon cease healing? Would Crowley become completely vulnerable? Would he throw a shitfit at the lack of soul-supplies? How would those recently inducted into hell feel about just having missed the cut off point? How the fuck would Death feel? And the Reapers? Essentially made redundant? Would Death come to Dean for help, to cash in a favour, as it were?
SO MANY QUESTIONS. Oh, Superwood. You bring me such mind pickly joy.
You can’t order a poem like you order a taco.
Walk up to the counter, say, “I’ll take two”
and expect it to be handed back to you
on a shiny plate.
Still, I like your spirit.
Anyone who says, “Here’s my address,
write me a poem,” deserves something in reply.
So I’ll tell you a secret instead:
poems hide. In the bottoms of our shoes,
they are sleeping. They are the shadows
drifting across our ceilings the moment
before we wake up. What we have to do
is live in a way that lets us find them.
Once I knew a man who gave his wife
two skunks for a valentine.
He couldn’t understand why she was crying.
“I thought they had such beautiful eyes.”
And he was serious. He was a serious man
who lived in a serious way. Nothing was ugly
just because the world said so. He really
liked those skunks. So, he re-invented them
as valentines and they became beautiful.
At least, to him. And the poems that had been hiding
in the eyes of skunks for centuries
crawled out and curled up at his feet.
Maybe if we re-invent whatever our lives give us
we find poems. Check your garage, the odd sock
in your drawer, the person you almost like, but not quite.
And let me know.
“…All told, a dozen states have approved new obstacles to voting. Kansas and Alabama now require would-be voters to provide proof of citizenship before registering. Florida and Texas made it harder for groups like the League of Women Voters to register new voters. Maine repealed Election Day voter registration, which had been on the books since 1973. Five states – Florida, Georgia, Ohio, Tennessee and West Virginia – cut short their early voting periods. Florida and Iowa barred all ex-felons from the polls, disenfranchising thousands of previously eligible voters. And six states controlled by Republican governors and legislatures – Alabama, Kansas, South Carolina, Tennessee, Texas and Wisconsin – will require voters to produce a government-issued ID before casting ballots. More than 10 percent of U.S. citizens lack such identification, and the numbers are even higher among constituencies that traditionally lean Democratic – including 18 percent of young voters and 25 percent of African-Americans.’”—The GOP War on Voting (via pantslessprogressive)
“I fell in love with books. Some people find beauty in music, some in painting, some in landscape, but I find it in words. By beauty, I mean the feeling you have suddenly glimpsed another world, or looked into a portal that reveals a kind of magic or romance out of which the world has been constructed, a feeling there is something more than the mundane, and a reason for our plodding.”—Donald Miller (via suzywire)