Anonymous asked: So what you were saying with that post about the male swimmers / female volleyball players, Is that the female gender is the only one that can experience heterosexual attraction without it being perverse... That's not even remotely sane.

…Nope, it’s not remotely sane, mostly because I didn’t say that, at all. Way to make a flying leap of logic there, buddy. I genuinely wonder how people get to my page sometimes, because the asks I receive often bear no correlation to my actual posts.

I’m not sure how you derived any of my opinions on so called ‘perversion’ from a post that didn’t refer to any aspect of perversion whatsoever. We’re not talking about people being ‘pervy over women’, because the male gaze has NOTHING TO DO WITH SEX AND EVERYTHING TO DO WITH POWER. The objectification and sexualisation of women isn’t about reducing women to their body for the sake of sexual gratification but reducing them to their body because one gender has the ability over the other to do so. It’s about making someone less than human because of their womanhood, it’s about power dynamics, and hierarchy, and perceived physical weakness. It’s about nudity representing different things for different genders. It’s about the stereotype of attractive men being physically strong and the stereotype of attractive women lacking muscle mass and being generally slender, or ‘weak’. 

I’m not sure how I can make this clear enough, I’m really flailing for words here because I feel like I’m just explaining the meaning of ‘objectification’ over and over and over again.

Objectification has nothing to do with sex and everything to do with men exerting power over women by removing their humanity and reducing them to their physical form. Men can do this to women because men have the privileged position in the (fictitious) binary. Women can’t do this to men because women lack power in the dynamic. Women sexually admiring men is just admiration (not ‘perversion’, I have no idea where the fuck that word came from), but men sexually admiring women is tied to objectification. Does that make sense?